Do you suffer from boredom /feel you are stuck in a rut? Same old routine day in day out – same rituals each day at work, same issues over and over again, same TGIF feeling every Friday then the week-end goes by in a flash and you’ve done nothing really enjoyable, then same old Monday feeling and it all goes round. All very predictable.
We’ve all felt life could be more exciting, challenging, interesting, but let time drift by and not done anything to change it.
It’s a basic human need to want to feel secure and in control, but sometimes a safe, comfortable routine can start to feel more like a prison – a life sentence of boredom.
When this happens, the desire for new challenges and excitement might just spill over into driving too fast, taking risks, having an affair, getting high on drugs or alcohol.
If you recognise this scenario it might be time to reappraise your lifestyle.
Maybe you need to set yourself a new challenge. Maybe there is something you always wanted to do but life got in the way? Imagine yourself doing this and hold on to that dream. What is the first small step? Don’t think of all the reasons why not, just do it! Take that first step.
When babies take their first small step and fall down they get up and do it again. They don’t feel embarrassed or defeated, they feel excited and joyful to be learning something new and keep at it until they are fearlessly running and climbing.
As we go through life however, the obstacles, setbacks, criticisms and failures we encounter can eat away at our confidence with the effect that we tend to settle for what we have, rather than risk the unknown. We under-achieve rather than risk the idea of failure.
But it is a basic human need to feel stretched, have challenges that allow us to grow and improve, become more competent, more knowledgeable, more able. This gives us both self respect and respect from others which is another basic human need.
When the lack of challenge and excitement builds our mental health can suffer to a point of frustration, boredom, recklessness. The unconscious drive to meet the need for new challenges can then cause caution to be thrown to the wind.
Are you taking risks or so bored you feel tempted? Feel something is missing in your life and don’t know what to do about it ….. contact me if you need help with finding your way to escape your prison.